"Obsessed" Drops April 24, But The Foolishness Has Already Begun..Thanks Essence, I Knew I Could Count on You !

Leave it to Essence to use the movie "Obsessed" as a means to keep beating the "jealous black woman" fighting for her black "kang" drum.  SMH   To say that I'm tired of that old stereotype is putting it mildly.  {yawn}

Anyhoo..I'm sure when the movie drops this Friday, there will be PLENTY of black women in the theaters cheering on Beyonce's character as she "beats down" that "white b*tch" trying to steal her man.  SMH {more yawning}

Here is how Essence is framing their take on the movie:

Black Men and White Women: Does It Still Matter?

An Obsession The wounds of Black men being romantically linked to White women go back a long way—and is still a sore spot for some. In the highly anticipated film “Obsessed,” out April 24, Sharon (Beyoncé Knowles) finds herself battling the secretary (Ali Larter) of her husband, Derek (Idris Elba), after the assistant boldly seeks her man’s affection. A White woman pursuing a Black man is a reality that hits close to home for many sisters, so we decided to explore the age-old issue of Black men dating White women and whether or not we should care who a person decides to date.

Or my other personal favorite from Essence's little list of what's wrong with black women.  / sarcasm

(Because that's what this little trip down memory lane in their "story" is really about.)

Sexual Healing

One reason that has floated around for the large numbers of Black men dating White women was a stereotype that sisters were more inhibited in the bedroom. Some women have even bought into this thought. "I was dating a White woman and she told me, ’I’m not like those sisters; I can take it,’ in the middle of fellatio when I informed her I was about to climax ", says Raheem*, a 26 year-old paralegal.*Identifying details have been changed.

LOL, LOL, LOL....wow.  Uhmm...ok.  Hhhmmm I must have missed that chapter on sensuality that explained how ingesting bodily fluids or having one's "back blown out"  was the ONLY key to esctasy.   LOL...but, uhhmmm...perhaps different strokes ??

Essence did try to throw in a little ..."now be open" to black women at the end of their little "article," but it was, in my opinion, mired in B.S.

  If you so desire, check out the full list, article or whatever HERE.Thank you Lorraine for the heads up and pointing out this sane reader's comment from Essence's site:Do you think we "own" our black men? How can we yell diversity and equality when we segregate ourselves? This movie is a really bad idea and it will plant negative segregated seeds in the impressionable minds. Also, if you want to evoke "territorial rights of my man" attitude, you don't have to go across racial lines....are you [sic] insuiating that black women back off when they know a brother is already taken??? Please. This movie takes our nation in a negative direction. Focus on how our women are reproducing without thought, focus on how our men are banging around like they can't think....this problem truly comes to the core level, not the color level. Please stop segregating by trying to create anger in interracial relations. This movie isn't about interracial, it should be about a man who needs to say no when he is already taken, REGARDLESS of the color of the woman groping him. DUH. RISE ABOVE!

I'm so glad you found that comment, because I don't have the energy to plow through that site. 

Somebody wake me when Essence starts reporting on the [growing] numbers of black women who are not "obsessed" with whom black men are romantically involved. Some of us {me, me, me} really don't care; we are too busy living our OWN lives and finding love with men who want to love us --be they non-black or black.  We are making plans for our futures, dreaming big and living well.  We don't have time to be bitter, angry or wallowing in the past.  Perhaps Essence should join us.