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Newsweek Article Encourages Black Women & Girls to Expand Their Love Options

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I am shocked and amazed by the below article written by Allison Samuels  over at Newsweek, given some of her prior pieces.

Allison says:

For what seems like forever, I have waited for The Princess and the Frog. This is the first Disney animated film about an African-American princess, and this delightful fairy tale couldn't come at a better time, what with the two little African-American princesses who live in the White House. The newest Disney royal is named Tiana, and she's a young woman with pools for eyes, a figure straight out of a fashion magazine, and a big dream. Tiana wants to own a restaurant—she makes a mean beignet—but she's so busy working to save money for it that she barely notices when a prince comes to her corner of 1920s New Orleans. Like every Disney prince, Naveen seems completely unattainable, though for reasons that have less to do with his station or his dreamy French accent than with our own, more modern concerns. Prince Naveen has a tannish complexion, but he clearly isn't African-American. My fear is that for many in the black community, the fairy tale may just end right there. Since the 1960s, marriages between black men and white women have been steadily increasing—14 percent of all black men are now married outside the race. Yet only 4 percent of black women do the same. Why? Black women, for better or worse, have always seemed to maintain a loyalty to the ideal of the black family unit. That's understandable, even noble, but it doesn't make a whole lot of sense when so many black men don't feel the same way. Combined with the disturbing number of black men in prison, that means 47 percent of all African-American women today never marry. With those numbers, I say it's time for many black women to start thinking, and acting, like Tiana. I'm certainly not suggesting that we all follow in the steps of a fictional character, but I am proposing that we take a good, long look at what the fairy tale is trying to teach the children of the world—and us. In The Princess and the Frog, we see a young girl not inhibited by the color of her skin or her suitor's. Of course, the film makes that easy by changing them both into frogs—it's a long story—so that color becomes the least of their concerns (after, say, the whole eating-flies thing). This gives them the opportunity to get to know each other without the added pressure of who comes from where and who looks like what. The don't-judge-a-book-by-its-cover idea may be a Disney cliché (see also Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, The Little Mermaid, etc.), but it comes at a time when, as Prince Naveen might say, Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose. Just last month, a justice of the peace in Louisiana was forced to resign after he refused to marry an interracial couple. It would be wonderful if the black family could stay together to face down society's prejudices, but black women can't shoulder that responsibility by themselves. And they certainly shouldn't be consigned to a lifetime of loneliness. Princess Tiana is able to find happiness by wishing upon a star, but all that black women have to do is open their minds. © 2009  Source Newsweek

I truly believe the tide is turning and more BW / girls will seek their own happiness above that of  the "community."  If only the Black women who are still trying to save "black love" would take off their blinders and be honest with THEMSELVES, more and more would be free.  Look around at the evidence and you will see that BW are in the fight ALONE trying to save "black love" and the "black family."  If the man is not there fighting with you, then WHAT will you accomplish ? 

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"I Need Dark Skinned Women For Sales"

Yet another ignorant negro spreading his anti-BW hatred to the masses.  The only thing the rodent has to say that is worth mentioning is that he NEEDS dark skinned women because they buy his tore up albums.  SMH

THANK YOU so much for outing your anti-BW hatred and racism whoever you are.  I hope these "males" continue to out themselves so that NO BW (regardless of skin shade) will support them.

WARNING : Extreme ignorance and foul language in this video:  

Obviously Tameka Raymond was just hallucinating when she recently wrote about colorism in the BC. /sarcasm

The New Mo'Nique

I don't think any words are really necessary.

Happy Friday from Eric Dane !

Good Hair : I Really Wish A Black Woman Would Have Made This Film Instead of Chris Rock

Thanks Lorraine !!

I posted the "sneak peek" of Chris Rock's documentary about our hair several months ago.  The official trailer has finally been released :

Per usual, a deeply personal and for some, painful issue pertaining to Black women is on display for the "masses" to dissect.

This type of commentary is exactly why I don't like this film:

A non-black commenter on Jezebel.com said: Source

"I definitely plan to see this. For me, it will be somewhat enlightening to learn about some of the issues my female students face. As a white teacher in a primarily black school, I have learned a lot about black culture this year. Just seeing and hearing some of the comments about hair makes me feel horrible. Especially the prices these girls pay for weaves. One of my students had a brand-new, beautiful, expensive weave completely ruined by a food fight in the cafeteria in which MILK was thrown on her weave. I have supplied endless plastic bags to be used as rain bonnets to protect hair. I did not realize until teaching where I teach what standards of beauty black women are expected to meet.
On a lighter note, I have had to answer questions this year such as, "Ms. Chibster, why do you keep getting your ends clipped? You should let your hair be long and flowing!" It took some conversation for me to realize that even when some of the girls try to grow long hair, their hair breaks and they have to get a weave if they want a long-hair look. I never knew how easy I had it with my hair until this year!
(Although, I think it would be nice if I could pull off the scarf on the head look on a bad hair day. I look terrible trying to do that!)" 

Thanks Chris. /sarcasm

Girls..Free Your Mind & Love Could Follow !!!

Thanks Lorraine !!!

Can we all just be honest for a minute...non-black men are NOT aliens..lol; they are MEN. 

Black women please let go of this "alien" fixation and at the very least, if you are in the area, go and LISTEN to the panelists.

It's really interesting to me how some of US focus on the differences we may have to face with non-black men, but nobody really thinks about how we ALREADY face differences within black romantic relationships and somehow folks manage.  SMH

Case in point---a black girlfriend of mine is married to a black man.  She is a city girl through and through; He on the other hand is a "deep south" boy.  When they got married, they had to deal with their differences in culture: food / cooking styles, dialects, family traditions, etc.

It's not just "racial" differences couples have to negotiate; however, we NEVER talk about certain cultural / class differences within black relationships.  A relationship is what YOU make it and ALL relationships will have challenges.  It's really not that complicated or mysterious..it's just life.

Also check out Interracial Families and Couples Ski & Networking Weekend: HERE

Thanks Nekia !

KeKe Palmer Co-Stars in "Shrink"

Release date : July 24, 2009